M M, Good luck to you and your daughter. I don't mean to scare you, but I am an alumnus of Oberlin. It is sentimental to me, and I had a good experience, but I am out of touch with the place now. I'm not sure how much it has changed in 25+ years and how much I have, but I really can't see myself going there in 2024 (actually matriculated in 1994, come to think of it, so this is a bit of an anniversary for me).
In terms of scaring you, I think back to this Philosophy of Religion class I took where tension predominated. We were on pins and needles, if we spoke at all. Prospective students joined us one day, and I remember being embarrassed for the class. I suggested as much to one of them, and this really smart student laughed and said, "Yeah. Don't hold this one against Oberlin." And that's how I feel about the fact that I dented the doors -- "Don't hold ME against Oberlin." People can slip through the cracks, and it doesn't reflect on the school.
I'm not a parent but your description is so deep and so precise and so heartfelt I can kinda imagine what it must be like! Also I love that restaurant idea of buying someone lunch. We should start that in NY!
M M, Good luck to you and your daughter. I don't mean to scare you, but I am an alumnus of Oberlin. It is sentimental to me, and I had a good experience, but I am out of touch with the place now. I'm not sure how much it has changed in 25+ years and how much I have, but I really can't see myself going there in 2024 (actually matriculated in 1994, come to think of it, so this is a bit of an anniversary for me).
In terms of scaring you, I think back to this Philosophy of Religion class I took where tension predominated. We were on pins and needles, if we spoke at all. Prospective students joined us one day, and I remember being embarrassed for the class. I suggested as much to one of them, and this really smart student laughed and said, "Yeah. Don't hold this one against Oberlin." And that's how I feel about the fact that I dented the doors -- "Don't hold ME against Oberlin." People can slip through the cracks, and it doesn't reflect on the school.
The second one is different, isn't it? UGH. Sending hugs!
Ah, you turned out okay. 😁
I'm not a parent but your description is so deep and so precise and so heartfelt I can kinda imagine what it must be like! Also I love that restaurant idea of buying someone lunch. We should start that in NY!
It was of interest to me that the people who bought the initial 30 meals were NYC medical students.