Well, if no one else will take on your question, I will try. I see the "bad to good" path more clearly because, much as I hate to admit it, I think we learn from change, and I think good is likely to come among change. For instance, I had a rough August medically, first breaking my collarbone and then having oral surgery. The broken collarbone enabled me to discover I had more flexibility in my health insurance than I realized, and could see a doctor who could help me with the arthritis in my other shoulder. The oral surgery made me go without coffee for a day. I realized I was drinking way too much, and am finding I sleep significantly better without it.
Emotionally, however, I must say that I'm a frontrunner. I don't tend to get complacent but just encouraged and even more energetic when things are going well. If things are not going well, they look hopeless to me, and without that prospect of success, I struggle with motivation. I have also experienced the phenomenon where, if I behave badly toward someone, I sort of take on that character and continue that, in some sort of perverse bid for consistency. Or maybe this just reflects lowered self-esteem resulting from the initial bad behavior.
Thanks for taking it on! I'm glad that your misfortunes led to positive change - that's good. Interesting that concept of "perverse bid for consistency" - it is strangely in human nature to seek sameness while also craving change!
Or maybe the "perverse bid" comes from wanting others to have consistency so they will leave us alone. Think of your "Miss Blue" blog about the annoying attention your imposed green nail polish generated.
Well, if no one else will take on your question, I will try. I see the "bad to good" path more clearly because, much as I hate to admit it, I think we learn from change, and I think good is likely to come among change. For instance, I had a rough August medically, first breaking my collarbone and then having oral surgery. The broken collarbone enabled me to discover I had more flexibility in my health insurance than I realized, and could see a doctor who could help me with the arthritis in my other shoulder. The oral surgery made me go without coffee for a day. I realized I was drinking way too much, and am finding I sleep significantly better without it.
Emotionally, however, I must say that I'm a frontrunner. I don't tend to get complacent but just encouraged and even more energetic when things are going well. If things are not going well, they look hopeless to me, and without that prospect of success, I struggle with motivation. I have also experienced the phenomenon where, if I behave badly toward someone, I sort of take on that character and continue that, in some sort of perverse bid for consistency. Or maybe this just reflects lowered self-esteem resulting from the initial bad behavior.
Thanks for taking it on! I'm glad that your misfortunes led to positive change - that's good. Interesting that concept of "perverse bid for consistency" - it is strangely in human nature to seek sameness while also craving change!
Or maybe the "perverse bid" comes from wanting others to have consistency so they will leave us alone. Think of your "Miss Blue" blog about the annoying attention your imposed green nail polish generated.